A short fuse. That is a common descriptor for when our patience, energy, or control is right on the edge of a snap. Is your stressed-out talk different from when things are more calm or mild?
Everyone has a guideline that they operate from. It’s a way that they conduct themselves or their business. It is tempered somewhat, not exactly what may be brewing on the inside, but a more controlled and socially responsible version.
When people get tired, pushed, or otherwise stressed out, sometimes the Kraken comes out.
He blew up.
She lost it!
He totally freaked out!
While fuse length varies and is conditioned by many factors, nobody wants this to happen.
Is there something in-between the blow-up and the totally in-control you?
Stressed Out Talk
Authenticity matters but for everyone looking to lead there is a fine line or a balancing act for what you deliver.
When you set out to deliver your best you are probably being very tactical in your approach.
You may be conscious that you need to be kind, be patient, and have empathy. You might also be thinking about how to be more respectful, more generous, or mindful of navigating the rough spots.
It works for many, most of the time.
Yet there are occasions when the time feels short, something is overdue, or expectations have been thrown out the window.
That’s when our somewhat rigid structure of self-management begins to break down and slip out.
It’s not viewed as the normal you.
Interactions and behaviors are always about conscious choice.
An apology for a slip-up is a good idea. Behavior tempered, even when the fuse is short is much better.
Make conscious choices and have self-awareness. As a leader, you’ll contribute better with the proper intentions. It’s always better than needing to make an apology.
Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.