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What 3 Percent Will Change Your Career?

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We’ve all seen the food pictures on social media, lots of them. Many people take their food pretty seriously. Some are known as picky eaters. Employers might be seriously picky, how will you change your career?

It seems that there is about three percent making the difference between awesome and, “No thanks, I’ll pass.”

Chicken nuggets without any sauce, a birthday cake without any icing, “No thanks, I’ll pass.”

Tomatoes on my turkey and cheese submarine sandwich or buried under my bun on a Whopper from Burger King, “Nope, they have to go!”

What is the difference between delicious and terrible? I would suggest about three percent.

Your Three Percent

The same might be true for your career. You might want to consider what you have to do to be the special sauce or the icing on the cake. What do you need to remove or eliminate? What will change your career?

I believe that we sometimes overestimate on the big stuff and underestimate on the small. People work really hard on the big stuff. College degrees, fancy titles, getting in with the most predominate and reputable employers. Sure, those things might be important but the game changer might be in the three percent.

Change Your Career

Here are a few things to consider:

  • Do you speak the language? I’m not suggesting the difference between English, Spanish, or French. Do you use words and phrases that are consistent with the organizational culture and mission? Language drives emotions and like it or not emotions condition our likability factor.
  • Are you confident? Confidence is based on our self-efficacy and self-esteem. Confidence can be built, similar to trust it can also easily be destroyed. The difference for confidence is that it is lost only if we allow it. Past mistakes or shortcomings shouldn’t make you feel weak. What is important is what you learned.
  • Do you look the part? This might ruffle some feathers but it might be the tomatoes on the sandwich. Have you thought about what should go? Sure, you can color your hair purple or have a ZZ Top beard you have the right. Is either of those smart for your career? It might depend on the business, but beware.

It’s early in the morning but I’m already thinking about lunch.

I know I’m going to toss the tomatoes on my sandwich.

It will then be perfect.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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5 Factors for Being a Likable Leader

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As a consultant and coach, I have heard it many times. “I’m not here to win a popularity contest.” Does being a likable leader really matter?

You bet. Likability might be one of the most underrated factors for leadership success. There is usually a focus on revenue, the bottom line, and being visionary. Often only when things are going the wrong way is likability truly considered.

The most important outcome for being a likable leader might be the ability to build better relationships. What are some of the most common characteristics of being likable? What would you look for?

Success Factors

Leaders should consider or honestly assess some or all of these factors:

  • Flexible. Certainly, the job must be done and it absolutely must be on time, with quality, and with the highest efficiencies. However, being flexible in approaches, input, and being open-minded will gain more commitment and loyalty.
  • Generous. Of course, someone will bring up money. Money is important and appropriate compensation will always be a major factor. Don’t forget about giving time, spending time, and listening. Often overlooked these generosities might be a deciding factor.
  • Empathetic. This will always be on the list. Being understanding and patient sometimes feels like it only applies to motherhood or mortuaries. In a fast-paced, low tolerance world, having appropriate empathy is often a missing link.
  • Connected. Sure rubbing elbows with the right people is always beneficial for the organization. Social media connections might also have some value. Likable leaders form connections with people, with employees, in real life person-to-person relationships.
  • Open. Good listeners and being open-minded are first thoughts, and they are good ones. Change should also be mentioned, not just organizational change but interpersonal and professional change. Being known as stubborn, bull-headed or a bully is not likable.

Likable Leader

Being likable as a leader is not a sign of weakness. Instead, it is a sign of strength, courage, and commitment to the future success of the people and the organization.

The best part is that when we are on the job, especially as a leader, we recognize that we have work to do.

Sometimes that might mean working on us.

It only happens if you care.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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How Likability Builds Relationships and Represents Leadership

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Have you thought about how likability builds relationships?

Recently I was lost for words when a business associate asked me about the results of meeting I had with an executive they had provided as a referral. After stumbling and fumbling for a moment I said, “Let me just say that Emotional Intelligence training might be helpful.”

While I’m not in the habit of being critical of people, I definitely felt a little frustration during my conversation with the aspiring executive.

Normally it is the kind of discovery I want to have, because I can often help. However it is sometimes challenging when the person who writes the check is really the problem and they absolutely don’t see it that way.

Likability On Your Radar

I wouldn’t say that the gentleman was totally unlikable. I understand how he might think he is doing his job, but my guess is that much of the team is not very fond of him. He is the kind of leader that when asked about being likable, he would say, “I’m not here to win a popularity contest.”

The single most important message that I can share with any aspiring leader is that you need to care about being likable.

Certainly that doesn’t mean that every decision you make or direction you turn will be popular. It does mean that you need to have likability on your radar.

Likability Builds Relationships

Whether it is with your team or with vendors, customers, or other stakeholders here are a few things that will help improve your likability:

  1. Be Positive. Sometimes miserable people like to connect with other miserable people, but leaders need to be inspirational. Always maintain a positive outlook. Inspire faith in the process, share plans and actualize the vision. Light the path.
  2. Show Empathy. Demonstrating caring and concern helps connect people emotionally. It doesn’t mean choices are made from fear or sympathy, it does mean that people know you care and understand.
  3. Stay Humble. Arrogance really shows ignorance. Your position doesn’t mean you can push people around. It really means that you have to serve harder, care more, and understand people.
  4. Listen Well. Chances are good that the most likable relationships are built by those who talk less and listen more. Listening is a skill. It’s different from hearing sounds or voices. Listen to understand.
  5. Connect. Never try to shove your way around. Pushy and authoritarian isn’t a relationship, but it might be bullying. In the workplace your best people are connected to their work by purpose. Build bridges not towers.

Practice

When it comes to building relationships you become what you practice. Being likable is important for any relationship but don’t confuse likability with popularity.

In leadership roles adhering to your responsibilities might not always be the most popular, but they should always be respectful.

Respect is earned. Leadership is a skill. Likability builds relationships.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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