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Smart Forecasts Change Outlooks and Outcomes

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Do you sometimes predict what will happen next? Are you making smart forecasts about the future?

It seems like everyone does it sometimes. You believe that you know what the person will say next, you know the behavior they’ll exhibit, and you know what the reactions will be throughout their network.

Do you get is right?

The best answer is probably, “Sometimes.”

Your confidence grows when you nail it. You may even be sort of proud about it and proclaim, “I told you so.”

We’re not always correct though. Sometimes we get it wrong.

Sometimes we finish their sentence and it isn’t where they were heading. Sometimes we suggest something was different about the circumstances that we didn’t realize and that is why the behaviors weren’t as predicted.

Are your forecasts useful?

Smart Forecasts

If people are expecting a sun-shiny day, their mood might perk up. If it starts to rain there is disappointment. Perhaps even some wet clothes or soggy shoes.

It isn’t that much different in the workplace.

Sensing that your computer will crash today is unlikely unless of course, it has been crashing frequently without resolution.

Worrying about the meeting your boss just called may not help your plight unless there is something overdue or some wrongdoing that you might be able to correct before the meeting.

Attitudes and moods are often conditioned by expectations. Expectations develop from communication.

Let’s not forget about self-fulfilled prophecy. What you think or believe will often have a strange way of unfolding.

That is precisely why smart forecasts matter so much.

There has to be accuracy, but it also should be backed up by optimism.

Smart forecasts have a way of coming true.

Predict more sunshine.

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.


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Build Relationships through Positive Self-Talk

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You want to build stronger business relationships but you’re not always sure if it’s working. It’s common for many business professionals to wonder if they have formed a connection. Do you build relationships or watch opportunities slip away?

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Lack of progress towards your goals is often not rooted specifically in your actions. That’s not the root cause. The root cause is that your actions often develop from your mind-set.

Foundation Skills

Negative self-talk is easy to get validated. Pick anything that you think can go wrong and you’ll likely find someone with a matching opinion. Immediately, your negative thoughts are validated.

Relationship building has this same challenge. Many people are fearful that a potential contact won’t have interest.

The fear is that they might not be into what you are into. Perhaps they won’t see the value in building a relationship. Worse yet, you might believe you’ll say something silly that will turn them off entirely.

I’ve heard a few speakers suggest that building business relationships is like dating. Certainly most people can see a few similarities. We might call these, fundamentals. The great thing about fundamentals is that they form the foundation for what happens next.

It’s true, once you have the fundamentals down, and believe in them, the rest will come pretty easy.

Positive Approach

Here are several important pointers:

  1. Positive Self-Talk. If a little voice inside your head is giving you all the reasons why it won’t happen, you have to change that. Sure a little praise from someone else will help, but you can’t count on it. Mostly because if you’re being negative you won’t accept it. Give yourself positive affirmations, endlessly!
  2. Confidence. Find every reason why this will work. Confidence is built from self-efficacy and self-esteem. When you flood your thoughts with positivity about how it will work, why it will work, and picture the positive end result, you’ll leave little room for doubt.
  3. Be interested. Many believe they must sell themselves. They push hard for that. The key really is that you must be more interested in the other party. Less pushy on selling yourself. Ask more questions. Learn about them and their needs. They’ll appreciate you more and the sell will happen naturally.

Build Relationships

If you have any doubts, you’re going to have to get rid of them.

Use positive affirmations in your self-talk. Lots of them, flood your mind with all the reasons why. Leave no room for negativity.

Be positive, be confident, and most importantly be more interested in them!

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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Stay Positive If That’s What You Want

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Make no mistake, everyone runs into tough situations from time-to-time. Do you find ways to stay positive? Is that what you really want?

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In my business the idea of being positive, staying positive, or becoming more positive is a common discussion point. Businesses want their workforce to be motivated and engaged. Some people believe that motivation is entirely intrinsic. Others believe that motivation can be built or developed.

Being positive is probably connected with motivation, at least in some ways. It also might be connected with energy levels, enthusiasm, and persistence.

Two Types

Over time I have discovered that there are at least two types of people who express interest in staying or becoming more positive. There are those who are willing to work towards a more positive direction and there are those who express strong interest but are reluctant to make changes necessary to correct their path.

Recently someone expressed to me that they were struggling, having a tough time, and trying to navigate some difficult situations.

Certainly this person is not alone. Many people feel the same challenge. When I expressed several suggestions for corrective action they really didn’t appear all that interested. This person was more interested in complaining, feeling miserable, and looking for others to join the club.

If you truly want to stay positive, you have to want to get there and then to make it stick.

Positive Environment

Most people can see a correlation to the environment that we live, breathe, and work in, and our mental state. Not necessarily mental health, but our outlook. Are we more positive or are we leaning towards more negativity?

I’m not sure of the latest research by social scientists but many people believe that we are a product of our environment. Likely, whether consciously or not, this is why so many businesses are concerned with levels of positivity.

If you want to stay positive or if you are looking for ways to improve morale and positivity in your workplace you might want to consider starting with a question.

Do you, or the persons involved, want to be more positive and stay positive, or do you want to linger in the world of negativity?

Staying stuck and complaining is likely easier than taking action. Being distracted from the work at hand might be easier than staying focused, and for some, being the victim almost always feels like a good excuse.

Stay Positive

If you really want to stay positive or help others become or stay positive here are a few things to consider.

  • Bumps in the road. We all hit obstacles, hurdles, and setbacks. Some might be work related, some personal, and sometimes we might be dealing with a little of both. Expressing your difficulties with others can help you see things differently, but reliving the ugly memory time and time again does not help your cause.
  • Energy is required. We’ve heard the expression many times, “Get a good night’s sleep.” Your brain needs rest, your body needs rest, and you also need to have good nutrition. Don’t underestimate the challenges presented by a lack of sleep or not eating. Make sure you are eating and sleeping.
  • Learn something. You might be surprised with the number of people I meet who want to have a cocktail or two to relax and unwind, they see a correlation. On the other hand they won’t pick up a book or read anything in any format to learn something new. There are lots of ways to learn something, it doesn’t have to be a book, but you need to make a conscious effort.
  • Look forward. You cannot stay stuck in the past. Everyone has heard this, but only some will navigate out of the pit. Learn from things, yes, absolutely, but you cannot predict every future experience will result in tragedy. Clean the slate, wipe the white board, or think, <File> <New> but do not stay stuck.

Do you want to be more positive, or help others become and stay more positive, or is it more fun to stay stuck?

The choice is yours. Your outcomes will be conditioned on your next move—or not.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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Constructive Thinking Makes Your Day

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Many people rise every morning with the intent of having a great day, but some will rise every day with their first thought being about everything that will go wrong. Constructive thinking is part of our emotional intelligence, but it only makes a difference when we use it.

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It might help to understand the differences between constructive and destructive thinking. Let’s get the bad stuff out of the way first.

Destructive Thinking

There are many things that might bring on destructive thinking, and unfortunately people sometimes become hooked on such patterns, patterns then become habits, and it’s hard to break free.

When does destructive thinking get life? Here are a few possibilities, when you:

  • are hurried;
  • feel angry or dislike;
  • are embarrassed;
  • have tight deadlines;
  • get unfavorable feedback.

Of course there are many other scenarios that might play out to put you on a path of destructive thinking.

You might not close a sale or opportunity you’ve been working on, you might be uncomfortable with people you work around, or you are highly stressed by multiple and growing demands of your time or attention.

Constructive Thinking

One of the keys for more constructive thinking is to minimize or not allow any room for the destructive stuff, replace destructive with constructive and perhaps most important, make it a habit.

Give yourself some new patterns of thinking. Here are a few opportunities.

  • Being optimistic. Instead of seeing how your worst thought or fear might come true consider what are the good things that might happen next? Look for opportunity in a roadblock and get excited about pursuing things from a different (better) approach.
  • Build a positive prophecy. See the future as happening for you, not to you. See the end result as a positive outcome. Eliminate questionable thinking. Think, “I am strong and I am successful,” instead of “I’ll try hard and I will become better.”
  • Live in today, not yesterday. We learn from mistakes, let downs, and failures, but that doesn’t mean that we have to re-live them. Grow from past experiences but don’t keep reliving negative or unwanted outcomes. See yourself in a better place.

In the heat of the moment we can also take a break, some deep breaths, and discipline ourselves to replace harsh unwanted thoughts with something more constructive. In challenging relationships we might need to establish a plan or a course of action that will allow us to break patterns of negativity.

Additional Considerations

Consider what you talk about, what you share with others. Sometimes people claim they are very positive, but all they speak of is negativity. Certainly everyone might need to vent occasionally but minimize this activity because it only keeps you reliving the unwanted.

Last, but certainly not least, sometimes we might have to consider if there are other explanations for what is happening. Are you misunderstanding the circumstances or situations? Are you assuming too much or too little? If you were in someone else’s shoes would you view this differently?

Constructive thinking might be one of the most powerful things you can do to turn things around.

Go ahead, make your day!

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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