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workplace authenticity

The Truth Behind Workplace Authenticity

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Workplace authenticity may be considered a core value. Are role models and leaders authentic in your workplace? Do organizational politics play a role?

In a recent seminar someone suggested that flexing your style is not a desirable attribute since you are not being the real you. The discussion point centered around workplace leaders serving as coaches.

Do you occasionally serve as a workplace coach?

Workplace Coach

Being a good coach is not about show and tell. A good coach is effective at inspiring change through questioning techniques.

Questioning techniques of course involve good communication skills and when you are working with your boss, a peer, or a direct report every situation may be unique. This uniqueness is what may require you to flex your style.

In my opinion, flexing your style to accommodate a situation and make things better is not the same as playing politics, being fake, or lacking sincerity.

Workplace Authenticity

Flexing your style means that you are willing to put in the emotional labor required to help improve the situation.

If your style is somewhat brash and direct, that won’t work for every situation. If your style is softer and more empathetic, that probably won’t work for every situation.

Working hard as a workplace leader to master the skills required to be a good mentor and coach means that with practice it will be the authentic you. Don’t confuse a strong work ethic that places value on harmonizing the workplace with a lack of honesty, integrity, or authenticity.

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.


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The Difference Between Mentor and Coach

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In a recent article I wrote about how to find the right mentor. It sparked some additional questions. One important question might be what are the differences between mentor and coach?

When you are considering the idea of having a good mentor or coach in the workplace it is important to think about the end result. What are you really trying to achieve?

Outcomes and Experiences

You might want to use a mentor when you are trying to create any of the following:

  • Job shadowing
  • Developing specific skills
  • Learning the ropes
  • Following in the footsteps
  • Replicating

A coach on the other hand would be somewhat different. Consider a coach to help create the following:

  • Breaking new ground
  • Discovering alternatives
  • Exploring choices or direction
  • Replacing old habits with new
  • Connecting with purpose

Mentor and Coach

Mentoring might assume that the mentee is ready, willing, and able to take on a new job role. It would be used when you are trying to transfer the knowledge, skills, and abilities of the mentor to the mentee. In some ways you might also connect these same concepts with an internship or apprentice.

Coaching is different but it also assumes that the person is ready and willing to be coached. In some cases it might be viewed as an opportunity to get on the right track. In other cases it is to inspire growth. Coaching typically is not show and tell. It is more about discovery and direction.

Skill Sets

A mentor needs to know and understand the job requirements. They need experience in that role, or to be a good professional role model. A mentor would likely use examples of actions and behaviors that lead to job success. I sometimes suggest that it is an advanced form of job shadowing.

A coach may or may not have specific experience in the job. The coach often needs to be able to help the coached person discover alternatives, different paths, or new directions. Show and tell is less important. The ability to illustrate and ask without being seen as condescending holds more value.

Do some mentors use coaching techniques? Do some coaches have the ability to mentor? The answer to both is yes.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a five-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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How To Find The Right Mentor

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Mentoring seems to make its way up and down the popularity chart. Chances are good that mentoring helps, as long as it is the right mentor. How do you find the right mentor?

Mentoring is typically connected to the idea of pairing people together, one is the lead, the wisdom giver, the act to learn from and follow. The other is the mentee, the observer, the one who seeks answers to questions, and learns to replicate the desired behaviors of the other.

I think many would agree that the mentor and mentee relationship can make a significant difference. Choosing the right match might sometimes be challenging.

Right Mentor

Here are a few things to consider:

Receptivity. Most important is that the potential mentee is open and receptive to the concept that there is value in the relationship. If the mentee is close minded or stubborn about the process things might not end so well. In fact, it could be the kind of disruption that no one appreciates.

Generations. Pairing a millennial or gen Z (Gen 9/11, iGen) person with a traditional or baby boomer might seem logical since the folks who have been in the workforce longer might have more to share. Are you concerned about the turnover ratio of the most recent generations? Try pairing the best role model you have of that same generation with the new hire.

Expectations. You shouldn’t expect to have the end result be an exact replica of the mentor. Instead consider that the mentor can help the mentee discover all of the values, beliefs, and traditions and then be able to help the mentee incorporate those into their own style. Make sure the outcome expectations are realistic.

Mentor Not Coach

Keep in mind that while the words mentoring and coaching might be used synonymously they are likely two different processes.

In the workplace a mentor is typically a much more elite form of job shadowing, whereas coaching helps people adjust their behaviors and habits to improve their performance.

A mentor is more show and tell. A coach is more ask and consider. Technically they are quite different processes.

In either case consider progress is better than standing still, or worse, falling behind.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a five-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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Role Models and Why We Need Them

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Who are your role models? Do you really need them? Has anyone ever asked you about role models?

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In one form or another I’ve been helping others in the workplace for three decades. I’ve had the great fortune of seeing many people grow and develop their careers.

Unfortunately I’ve watched even more slip through the cracks just short of their reach for something more.

Sure, some people believe they can breakthrough on their own. Those with strong willpower and desire (hunger) probably can.  That same person with the help of a good coach or mentor can probably achieve it sooner and with more quality, fewer mistakes, and a greater reputation for their work.

Role Models

Many of the people who I coach get this question from me, “Who are your role models?” Honestly, I typically don’t get a quick answer, and I don’t expect one. However, having a great role model or several role models can significantly impact your career.

Perhaps one of the greatest benefits to having a great role model comes from trying to close the gap.

You know the gap. It’s the one between your current behaviors, your knowledge, your skills and abilities, and those of the role model. Without a solid goal or a vision of where you want to be, you’ll likely not go very far.

When people attend school they feel an obligation to learn. When people attend a workshop, participate in an on-line course, read a book (or blog), watch a video, listen to a podcast, or receive advice from a mentor or coach they might feel a similar obligation.

The obligation is the relationship that exists between the student and the teacher. It’s a good one, but it’s different when compared with the obligation of becoming more like your role model.

Why We Need Them

People with role models set a visionary standard for themselves. They hold the role model in the highest regard. They respect, admire, and honor those who have set an example that they would like to follow.

Perhaps most important, they take responsibility to achieve more and they own the appreciation and humility often required to propel them to the next level.

This is their obligation, not because someone told them they should or must, but because it is their desire. It might be a grandparent, parent, brother or sister. Sometimes it might be a teacher, religious leader, or their boss. In other cases, it might come from a book, a movie, or even a friend’s recommendation.

The difference is that they own it, they own it by choice.

Make a Selection

Choose a role model, or select a few of the very best qualities from several.

Everyone needs role models, not just because they set the example, but because we find it an honor to strive to be that good.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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