How does your day start? Is it a mix of workplace aggravation? Are you a contributor?
Some people like to stir the pot. Ramp up the drama, or just get people negatively fired up.
They consciously or subconsciously want to create destructive tension. Sometimes the belief is that it is fun to aggravate people. In extreme cases it becomes a playful way of the culture.
It’s not a good thing.
Have you experienced this?
People may ask:
I wonder if Mark will leave early again today?
Has the boss made his micromanagement rounds yet this morning?
Did you notice Abigale is wearing flip-flops again today?
Will any of this launch the start of a positive outcome?
These conversation starters don’t create connection or focus on anything positive. They add to the tension, build more stress, and work towards a cohesive environment of negativity.
Does the tension serve to create anything positive? Will it build something better for your customer or will it impact morale in a positive manner?
Are you adding to or detracting from negative tension?
Why do people want to stir the pot? Has it become part of the culture?
Building on Positivity
There are plenty of ways you can contribute negatively, and just as many ways to contribute with more positivity.
Our customers will love this.
I want to beat last week’s goal.
The new way is definitely better, it’s saving us a lot of time and wasted energy.
You have a choice about how you’ll contribute. Words are often used to create action and sometimes thoughtless words ignite anger, build negative tension, and derail positive performance.
Don’t waste anyone’s time.
Create something worthwhile.
Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.