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increase confidence

Increase Confidence Not Worry or Stress

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What would happen if you could increase confidence? Would that mean less worry and stress?

Sometimes the unknown makes us better.

My navigation system may not work in that remote location. I better study it on the map.

I’m giving a presentation to the committee. I should think through every question they might ask.

It’s been a while since I’ve done this. I better practice first.

Under-pressure is sometimes a way to get things done. It does provide a certain amount of motivation, determination, and commitment. However, under-pressure may create anxiety, unnecessary stress, and even panic.

Dress for success, rehearse the obstacles and freshen up on the skills. It’s true for the face-to-face meeting and it is true for the virtual meeting.

It is true for the job interview, how you’ll navigate change resistors, and even the chance encounter with the CEO.

Choose Confidence

Although many would argue that they lack choice, everyone has a choice for how they’ll manage worry and stress.

A simple course of action is preparation. Prepare.

Lacking confidence may mean that you haven’t appropriately prepared.

You haven’t prepared to drive 250 miles to an unfamiliar city and get to your destination on time.

It’s been a year since you created an Excel spreadsheet using complex formulas, and the CEO expects it tomorrow.

You didn’t run through your Powerpoint to consider what you might say about each slide.

Worry and stress.

Increase Confidence

Worry and stress are often built by not preparing.

When you prepare, you improve your confidence. You can rehearse and imagine the unexpected. It makes your work better.

It may be hard to cover every possible angle, yet, the more you cover in advance the higher your confidence.

Appropriate confidence has another perk.

Confidence sells.

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.


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wasteful worrying

Wasteful Worrying, What Will You Choose?

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You want to make a change, take a chance, or understand what the future holds. Uncertainty often leads to wasteful worrying. Is that where you’re at?

Worry is about choice. A choice to contemplate over and over again. A choice to wonder or fantasize negativity about a pending outcome.

Everyone Worries

It’s easy to worry. It’s easy to remember the things that went wrong. Everything that happens when you let your guard down or fail to take some advice from someone else.

Worry drives us to do many things.

A few of them may be positive. The double check, the confirmation, or reading over the draft document one more time.

Most worry is a waste of time though. It is a waste of your energy and other precious resources.

It may bring others down. Cause a stir, even a panic.

We often worry because we feel afraid. Fear causes hesitation. Hesitation sometimes results in missed opportunities, or worse, closed doors.

Some people place worry on faith. A belief that things will work out as they should.

Others will place it on a gamble. Take a chance, or throw in the cards.

Can you do better?

Will you make a better choice for the use of your time?

Wasteful Worrying

If you have no control over the pending outcome, why worry?

If you have control over the pending outcome, can you count on your knowledge and expertise? Is there a metric, a track record, or benchmark data?

Should you be more confident?

What if you committed to worry less? What if every time you felt it coming on you made a different choice about your energy allocation?

It’s easy to worry. Nothing worthwhile comes easily.

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.


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workplace worry

Workplace Worry Is An Overrated Mindset

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Are we a society of anxiety? Do you suffer from workplace worry? Our mind is powerful and we often convince ourselves of some pending doom even when doom is unlikely.

Worry is really a generic label for anxiety. We often fight hard for perfection. Perfection is the worry of not being good enough. Do you believe that your anxiety levels are higher when you’re on a mission for perfection?

Workplace Worry

One problem is that we don’t see the positive outcome. Instead we anchor our thoughts, actions, and behaviors through the belief that we need to thwart the pending doom.

“We need ten copies of the proposal. Does it look good? Should I use a 12-point font or 13? I’m not sure. They aren’t going to like it if they can’t read it.”

Some of this has value. It removes sloppy behavior. It may also improve our performance. Let’s face if we really don’t care we probably won’t try very hard.

On the other hand, our minds often allow us to take it too far.

“The V.P. just walked past my desk. She looked very unhappy. I shouldn’t have asked that question in the meeting yesterday.”

Like most things in life, somewhere in the middle is the proper balance.

What’s the Trick?

The trick is, and yes, it is a trick. It is to change our self-talk. Of course, quickly our worried self will tell us that in this case, we should be worried.

We worry because the outcome we are forecasting is of failure or negativity, not one of possibility or positivity.

The best question to ask yourself is, “Will my worry change the outcome?”

Worry is overrated.

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.


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Balance productivity

How to Balance Productivity and Worry

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Getting organized, understanding what needs accomplished, and making the best use of our time is important for every professional. Do you worry about obstacles, roadblocks, and asteroids? How do you balance productivity and worry?

Worth Worry?

We can worry about many things. Worry if our car can make the trip, if it will start in sub-zero temperatures, or if the air conditioning system will still function properly next season.

We may worry about paying for taxes, the age of the windows in our home or the roof over our head.

Career driven people may worry if they are on track, how the Company is doing, and will they get the promotion or do they need to find a new job.

People can worry chronically, about their life, their health, or how they’ll cover their MasterCard bill.

Worry can be disabling. Worry is stress, discomfort, anxiety, and more. It can turn to physical problems including illness or even death.

Does worry have any value? Worrying about tire pressure or wearing a seat belt has value. It makes us safer. So does wearing a helmet on a bicycle or motorcycle. Being conscious of debt to income ratio and the cost of food and housing also has some value.

Does thinking about risk and labeling it worry have any value? Will it make you more productive? Can it make you less productive?

Balance Productivity and Worry

What you accomplish in one hour today is worth a lot to you. How much you worry during an hour probably not so much.

Worrying and risk assessment has value when it causes us to alter our behaviors or habits into more productive outcomes. Consider a safer commute to work, with a seat belt, appropriate speed, and no texting. Mindful management of debt and paying the mortgage instead of taking a luxurious trip also has some value.

When you want to be both productive and successful you’ll have to decide how you want to spend your time and energy. Will you balance productivity and worry? Worry will destroy your energy, but productivity expands it.

Avoid the distractions that keep you from your best work.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a five-time author and some of his work includes, #CustServ The Customer Service Culture, and Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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