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Hard Decisions, Bad Habits and Your Energy

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Are you facing some hard decisions? What differentiates the level of difficulty or is it only about comfort, risk, and confidence?

Organizations often make decisions about what things will look like next. They have some level of confidence because they’ve done the math, considered options, and set the timelines.

The decision feels good because they’ve prepared.

Yet it seems that somewhere in the organization there is a gap. Someone left out information, distorted the facts for their own agenda, or acted on impulse out of fear.

Real issues are not always brought to the table. There seems to be too much at stake.

If I speak up, my boss will dislike me.

I’m not really sure. I’ve learned to keep quiet.

Everyone else believes this is the right move, so I will just agree.

The end result of the avoidance to address real issues is often poor decisions.

Was the decision easy or was it hard?

Complexity of Habits

Decisions are more challenging when there are different ideas.

Go to a restaurant with fifty items on the menu, or go to a restaurant with five items on the menu. It is easier to pick from five rather than fifty.

There is one exception. The exception is knowing what you want in advance.

If you always order a cheeseburger, and stick with it, the choice isn’t hard. It’s about a habit, not change.

People and businesses can get stuck with habits.

They can get stuck when the decision feels harder than staying the same.

Hard Decisions

It’s easy to get distracted. It’s easy to only half-listen. Listening is hard work and that is why so many people listen less. Because it is hard, and takes extra effort.

The same often happens with decisions. The extra effort feels like a waste energy. Energy to get through the day, put up with the nonsense, or listen during the meeting.

The hardest decisions are often the poorest decisions. Not because they were hard but because no one cared enough to put in the energy.


Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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When Learning Is Too Hard

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Have you ever considered how many people want to learn something new but drop out because it feels too hard? What do you do when learning is too hard?

The data indicates that as recently as 2013 more than 2.4 million guitars were sold in the United States. How many new guitar players are still using their instrument one year later? Did they ever learn?

What about a foreign language, how many copies of Rosetta Stone are sold annually? How many people want to learn a discipline of dance, how to cook, or the best ways to exercise?

How many people give up?

We can make many arguments for the cause of giving up. We can blame a lack of desire, a lack of interest, or even a lack of money (or resources) to continue the pursuit. These are all potentially valid reasons, but do some people give up because they find learning too hard? Do they feel intimidated?

Learning Is Too Hard

While it might be an excellent research study here are a few things I’ve discovered that are very important about adult learning.

  • Small steps, big results. Take small steps and continue to build. Stretch goals are great but it is important to balance the feeling of success and accomplishment with the harsh aspects of a relentless push. Big steps might be too volatile and the resulting failure discouraging.
  • Actualize the vision. Anyone who is serious enough to make the investment in money and effort might still need to see and feel the progress they are making. Goals are critically important. No goal, no accomplishment, keep the vision alive and move towards it.
  • Reinforcement. Continue to use all of the foundational skills to build more. Don’t allow space for knowledge relapse. A nice report card is valuable, but use it or lose it still applies.

It seems to me that there are many factors connected with desire and motivation, but getting discouraged might signal the beginning of the end.

Make It Easier

Most people discover that their talents emerge from things they enjoy. They lose interest when the price of effort exceeds the value of the reward.

Make the learning simple enough and people will have more fun.

They might learn to play the guitar, dance, and cook something great!


Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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