Something that sparks negative energy, or sends us into a moment of anger can derail our day, but only when we allow it. Do you have some workplace hot buttons? What are they?
Workplace Hot Buttons
Here are a few common anger igniters that I frequently hear about:
- Everyone was invited to the meeting, but me.
- The meeting was too long.
- Did you see the way he or she looked at me?
- Why is she wearing jeans and flip-flops?
- Her top is cut too low.
- She or he totally ignored me when I asked about…
- He or she hasn’t put in the time.
- I’m really a manager, not the girl Friday.
- He or she took credit for my work.
- Why does he or she get an hour and a half lunch break?
- She or he thinks they are above everyone else.
- He or she is a backstabber.
Have you ever heard any of these? Do you ever say them? In this case we aren’t judging whether a statement is true or false but rather we are considering some relatively small things that convert to anger.
Do you need anger management? It is more than a Charlie Sheen TV show.
If you find yourself getting angry in the workplace consider these quick simple steps to help you disconnect from your anger:
- Recognize that remaining angry is a choice.
- Be aware that anger comes in many forms. Self-assess.
- Practice relationship balancing.
- Stop evaluating, assessing, or blaming others.
- Establish realistic expectations. Stick to the facts and your responsibilities.
- Look for ways to be grateful and appreciative.
If you honestly apply these six steps you should be well on your way to reducing anger. You may also discover that those workplace hot buttons are not so destructive after all.
Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and culture expert. He is a five-time author and the founder of Appreciative Strategies, LLC. His business focuses on positive human performance improvement solutions through Appreciative Strategies®. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.