How Do You Prepare To Gain Confidence?

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How Do You Prepare To Gain Confidence?

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More confidence is something that so many people seek. If you’re inspired to gain confidence, it should never suggest that you are not already confident, but when we step out of our comfort zone we might need to find some more.

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One of the most important factors to make a difference will be how you prepare. So many professionals feel rushed with schedule pressures and effective time management. Procrastination can often lead to individuals denying the necessity for preparation and taking the approach that they will deal with things as they come.

Less Confidence

You might be familiar with the phrase, “Failure to plan is planning to fail.” Unfortunately I don’t know who to credit for these wise words but they are very applicable for those seeking to gain confidence.

Here is why. Perhaps nothing will more adversely affect your future confidence than your past performance. When you make a blunder, get tripped up, or have some type of performance failure you can grow from it, or you can set self-limiting beliefs which might make you feel less confident.

Gain Confidence by Preparing

Much of our confidence has roots in feedback or expectations that have been set by others. Our confidence might also be closely connected to self-efficacy and self-esteem. The best way to build more is to be prepared for any actions you are about to take or encounter. Here are a few tips to help you prepare.

  1. Visualize. Whatever you are about to do, whether it is giving a sales pitch, starting a new job, or giving a presentation to a large group imagine yourself in action. Really visualize what you might say or do. What the room or surrounding environment might be like, and most importantly visualize the positivity you will illustrate as you deliver. Visualize the event or situation in its entirety with you nailing it as you finish strong.
  2. Rehearse or practice. Practice in your mind (as part of visualization) or consider physically going through the motions depending on your circumstance or situation. Give yourself a test, do what you have to do to get it right, every time. Working out any kinks or bugs and connecting what you’re practicing to positive end results is important.
  3. Double-check. In the fable of Santa Claus he makes a list and he checks it twice. Consider everything you will need to have or do. In a professional role you might think about things like business cards, marketing materials, a tablet and a pen. In some cases you might think about the type of shoes you’ll wear, the possibility for bad weather, or changing temperatures. You might think about how you will visualize any distractions and you might also consider your nourishment, meals, and the timing connected with eating and resting.

Over Prepared?

Yes, it might be true that you can over prepare. Preparing too much can set you up to underestimate the intensity required for your success. For example, if we rehearse too much it might make our interactions appear unnatural or not authentic. It is also possible that your level of confidence is so high that it creates self-deception about the reality of the circumstances or situation you face.

The most confident people are probably the most prepared, the depth of their preparation will be conditioned by both the specific situation and their level of experience.

What about you, are you prepared? What is your level of confidence?


See also: 5 Actions to Build More Confidence

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and coach that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is the author of the newly released book, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce. Reach him through his website at or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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November 10, 2016at 11:11 am

Dear Friend,

Here’s how I grow in confidence.

Today I’ve learned that Life is a story being told moment by moment.

A Good Friend taught me that a Good Story is built upon Intention and Obstacles.

I’m not fond of the word Obstacle as defined. I’ve redefined it as what must be overcome as I fulfill my Intention. Obstacles are learning experiences.

When I really reflect upon my core Intention, I realize it is to master and live The Good Life from the Inside-Out and become a Good Friend.

My “Obstacle” is, I must learn by trial and error with Life as my teacher.

There are no other teachers. No proven programs. No real resources to draw from.

The journey is personal. The challenge is to Let Go and Let Life show me the way. …that becomes a question of belief, of faith.

My Intention, My Obstacle.

By moving forward, living my story, I grow in confidence.

And all of this showed up as I work on becoming a Good Friend. Go figure…

Live Well 🙂

    Dennis Gilbert

    November 10, 2016at 2:10 pm

    Interesting. So what is your focus then? A focus on learning how to be a good friend? It sounds like you are suggesting obstacles help us grow. If yes, I agree! 🙂


      November 10, 2016at 2:47 pm

      Yes. Obstacles (learning experiences) help us grow. Growth builds confidence.

      My Intention (focus) is to achieve Mastery of Life by Living From The Inside-Out.

      The evidence of my progress is my demonstration of becoming “A Good Friend.” Every Learning Experience (obstacle) I move through increases my confidence.

      This journey is without end.

      …kinda abstract. But, meaningful for me 🙂

        Dennis Gilbert

        November 11, 2016at 6:37 am

        If it is meaningful for you, then it has value! Good journey. 🙂

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