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negative bias

Negative Bias, Is It Limiting You?

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Positive versus negative, we hear about it all the time. People flock to social media for positive vibes, or spend time posting about their negative experiences. It is not just on social media. It is at your water cooler meeting, in your phone calls, and what you share with your friends and family. Is negative bias limiting you?

I have certainly done it. Proclaim that I am being positive but what I’m really sharing is negative. In fact, so much so, that I insist I’m not being negative. Often, from my point of view, I’m trying to be helpful, but what I speak is not necessarily so positive.

Negative Bias

Do you have a negative bias? Recently one of my brilliant good friends and I tossed this stuff around for discussion for nearly an hour. It seems simple, but you have to dig deep within yourself to have it hit home.

Here are a few short case studies.

  1. Someone proclaims they have been searching tirelessly for a new job. He or she states that they are being positive regarding their search. What do they talk about? All of the reasons why someone won’t hire them, how they are being discriminated against, and how it is just not fair.
  2. Another person proclaims they start their day on a high note, but quickly weather conditions, the work commute, or the people they work with ruin their good mood. Much of their morning talk is about how someone else is ruining their day. However, they also say, “but I’m staying positive.”
  3. Still another person claims that they are very focused on selling but they can’t achieve their goals. They repetitively state that the goal is lofty, the economy is off, and that the competition has a better marketing and advertising campaign. Yet they insist they are putting their head down and being positive.

In all three of these cases, the person is being effected by negative energy. They have a negative bias. Which also sets them up for confirmation bias, but that is another story.

Seeing Negative

Here is how this breaks down, it is simple, but sometimes hard to see at first.

  1. The new job seeker isn’t focused on finding the job, he or she is focused on why they won’t get one.
  2. The high note day starter is not looking for all the great things that surround them, he or she is looking for who is going to ruin their day. They believe it is coming, so they are watching for it, and find it.
  3. In the third case, the sales person is not focused on more sales, he or she is focused on why they aren’t getting enough.

Positivity is not something you say. It is something that you do and say. What you say is what you think and it will strongly condition your outcomes.

Positivity Test

Do you believe you are a positive person who is focused on the positive? Do you have a negative bias? There is a pretty simple test that you can give yourself.

Do you feel stressed or have high anxiety? Game over, you are likely living, at least at the moment, with a negative bias.

No matter how much you tell yourself you are positive, your mind is seeing (feeling) negative. You expect it to happen. It is all you see and it is what you find.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a five-time author and some of his work includes, #CustServ The Customer Service Culture, and Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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Positive Focus – Find Ten Reasons Why

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People often suggest that they are going to focus on the positive and that they are committed to a more positive outcome. Do you have a positive focus or are you really a naysayer?

Thoughts and Words

A positive focus starts with what you think. It is confirmed, broadcast, and replicated by what you say.

When you start your day at the office, the plant, or any job site talking about the negativity that surrounds your life, you do not have a positive focus.

When you enter the boardroom, attend the strategic planning session, or participate in the meeting you do not have a positive focus if your only contribution is to recite problems.

Naysayer Syndrome

The naysayer wants company, and so does misery. It seems to me it is much easier to build the fear of failure into the equation and be wrong, than it is to risk bringing the solution. Naysayers believe they win either way. Say it will not work and if you’re wrong it is still alright.

This is the naysayer. Whatever others contribute, the naysayer offers why it is a bad idea, why it won’t work, and why to avoid taking the path.

The best way to have a positive focus may be to do the exact opposite of the naysayer.

Be Different

When the naysayer comes to the table, he or she brings with them all the reasons why not. Therefore, your job is to bring all the reasons why it will.

A positive focus comes from bringing ten reasons why it is worth a try. Even if it has been tried in the past. Everything may be different now. The circumstances and situations are different. They players may be different, the timing is different, and yes, even the presentation may be different.

Positive Focus

Do you have a positive focus? Become the person who brings the reasons why. Be farsighted and encouraging. List why it will work instead of setting up roadblocks with why it won’t.

Nearly anyone can find someone to turn to when they want confirmation of doom and gloom. You are the opposite, you confirm that it just might work.

A positive focus starts with the reasons why.

Try it.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a five-time author and some of his work includes, #CustServ The Customer Service Culture, and Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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10 Ways To Get Motivated Now

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Motivation is an interesting thing. It is an emotional connection stimulated by a purpose. People debate whether motivation is intrinsic or extrinsic. Are you able to get motivated?

You might get many suggestions about what to do to get more motivated. If you don’t connect with any of those suggestions it isn’t going to make any difference.

Different Ways

I often suggest when talking with groups about workplace motivation that you can be motivated by fear or inspiration, or by punishment or reward. It seems there is a negative side and a positive side.

Motivation then, driven by emotions, can be very powerful. Willpower, a subject I love also has a connection here. In the workplace, our best motivation comes from having a purpose. Purpose can break down walls, eliminate stereotypes, and bring harmony to the team.

Do you want to get motivated or help to motivate others? Here are ten ways to jump-start your workplace motivation.

Positive:

  1. Be professional. Set a standard, be the expert, role model what you and others in your profession or trade would want to be recognized as, or for.
  2. Legacy. Good for any team, but especially good for individuals in the twilight of their career. What mark, standard, or lasting impression do you want to leave behind.
  3. Dream big. Every day someone goes bigger, faster, or better. You can be the best in your town, your state, your region, or the world. It isn’t about competing, it’s just about bigger and better. Goals are achieved, history will be made.
  4. Humanity. You do it to help others. You choose to be kind, generous, and sharing. It is a chance to become part of something, not for the pay, not to compete, but to just do good for humankind or a specific cause.
  5. Connection. We work best together. We are successful because of each other. People want to come here, be here, and do good work. It only happens because we do it together. Everyone is leader and follower.

Negative:

  1. Competition. I will not, or we will not be defeated. You can compete against other people, other businesses or even race against time. There are winners and losers, you’re going to win.
  2. Embarrassment. We have to do this, we must do this or we’ll be shunned from the tribe. Most of all we will be letting others who count on us down. We don’t want to be losers or outcasts.
  3. Revenge. There has been some wrongdoing and you’re going to change that. You will work harder and smarter than before. While the enemy sleeps, you’ll be stealing their food.
  4. Inferior. Often connected to image, brand, or legacy, your work, product, or service is not good enough. You will not stop until it is perfect. The perfectionist in you just won’t allow that.
  5. Fear. The boss says I must, and I don’t want to lose my job. I need this job and no matter what it is or how much I don’t like it, I do it because I have to do it. Hey, I am getting a paycheck.

Get Motivated

Perhaps the greatest thing about motivation is that it all works. Some might take you to the dark side, some is short-lived, but all of them may get the job done. Should you motivate from the positive or the negative? The best answer may be, it depends.

Motivation can be situational. For the strategy session it may be positive, when goals are slipping it may be more negative. All of it connects back to emotions and purpose. I always suggest positive over the negative and in some cases, the lines between the two may get blurry.

Anyone who doesn’t understand or care about the future outcome will probably lack motivation.

Understand the purpose, believe in it, and you’ll be pulled, no reason to push.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a five-time author and some of his work includes, #CustServ The Customer Service Culture, and Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce. Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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Ultimatum: The Poorest Form of Workplace Motivation

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Many organizations try very hard to engage their workforce. Often frustrated, organizations believe the path to performance improvement might be inspired by delivering an ultimatum. That’s unfortunate.

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You might give your dog a treat for good performance or when they demonstrate a desired behavior. This might sometimes work for people too. At least it seems that way until the size of the reward is not desirable enough to create the act.

This is why pay raises used as a motivator seldom create long-term engagement. Sure it works in the short-term, but so does free pizza when people are really hungry.

Reasons for Motivation

The biggest reason why ultimatums are an even poorer choice for motivation is largely because the ultimatum removes any choice. Choice is typically a sign of respect. Respect is sometimes given, but most would suggest that it must be earned.

Recent SHRM (Society for Human Resource Management) reports have indicated that respect is one of the most important factors in workplace satisfaction.

I’m not surprised. From my experiences respect is more responsible for organizational culture than any other single factor. It’s why I wrote a generational diversity book bearing the word in its title.

Leadership styles or cultures that try to force motivation through fear often succeed—temporarily. It’s because motivation is an emotional factor. It comes from what we feel, believe, or desire.

Maslow (circa 1943) taught us a lot about motivation and its connection with needs. Still today many believe and use his theory as a guiding principle. They see truth in it.

Ultimatum

When you attempt to motivate through fear or by giving an ultimatum you’ve evoked a negative reaction in an attempt to get a positive response.

When you connect people with purpose you’ve evoked a positive action because you’ve connected them with a positive emotional response.

Positive emotions will work every time, even in the long run.

– DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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A Bad Mood Ruins Everything, Lose It!

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Do you notice when someone is in a bad mood? Do you notice when people appear to be in a good mood?

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You’ve probably heard it before, “Attitudes are contagious!” The same might be true for people who are in a bad mood.

People often find what they are looking for. Are you looking for an argument, you’ll probably find one. Are you looking for others just as angry as you are, you’ll probably find some. Stop.

A bad mood ruins everything.

In my profession, I hear about people with bad moods often. If you want to stifle workplace energy and motivation throw someone with a bad mood into the mix.

Can we change our mood? Absolutely, and it often begins with understanding a little about emotional intelligence. How we perceive our workplace environment, the culture, and other people will typically have a big impact on our mood.

Here are a few tips to help replace a bad mood, with a good one.

  1. Focus on tasks at hand. Bad moods often develop by reliving a negative experience. Stop dwelling on it and move forward. You’ve got work to do, stay focused.
  2. Recognize benefits. What are the benefits of being in a bad mood? I can’t think of any. What are the benefits of being in a good mood? More relaxed, less stress, helps others, and so many more!
  3. Stop comparing. Many people feel that someone else has it better. A better life, better relationships, and a better job. Stop comparing yourself to others. Instead compare yourself to your next goal.
  4. Realize that life is short. If you’re often in a bad mood at work or about work consider that as a person you only have so much time, why waste even a minute of it being in a bad mood. Be thankful for your job or find a new one.
  5. Look for good mood people. Have a sense of curiosity and appreciation for good mood people. They’re out there but you might have to change your own mood first. Next, find two or three of them and then act like a crowd.

Perhaps nothing will zap your energy, give you a headache, cause you harmful stress and burn you out faster than when you are in a bad mood.

Good moods mean everything.

You might consider that moods happen, but you’ll decide if you stay with it. One answer is to grow your levels of emotional intelligence allowing you to spot the negativity and replace it with positivity before it brings you or others down.

You might not be able to control what happens in your environment but you can control how you react to it.

Put yourself in a good mood.

-DEG

Dennis E. Gilbert is a business consultant, speaker (CSPTM), and corporate trainer that specializes in helping businesses and individuals accelerate their leadership, their team, and their success. He is a four-time author and some of his work includes, Forgotten Respect, Navigating A Multigenerational Workforce and Pivot and Accelerate, The Next Move Is Yours! Reach him through his website at Dennis-Gilbert.com or by calling +1 646.546.5553.

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Right Time

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You were born at the right time, in the right place, and with the right opportunities. After all, a changing world surrounds you. You’re right in the middle of the greatest achievements of mankind. You have the power of technology expanding at a commanding pace, opportunity is everywhere, possibilities abound, and it is unstoppable.

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Unfortunately, not everyone sees it this way. Others were born at the wrong place, at the wrong time. They have no opportunities. Change has eliminated any possibility of achieving hopes, dreams, and a brighter future. Technology is the burden of everything in the world today and the world is less because of it. Everything would be better if it wasn’t for this vicious onslaught of change.

Most people will tell you they are focused on being positive, yet defining moments alter their individual outcomes. When there is chaos, uncertainty, doubt, fear, shock, and frustration you decide which mind-set you will use to make decisions.

You decide if it is the—right time.

– DEG


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Listen to Yourself

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Being positive is not a statement. Being positive is a mind-set.

So many people talk with me about motivation, positive thinking, and accomplishing dreams, but few really understand that being energized and positive is a mind-set, not a statement. Often people will tell me that they are “trying to stay positive,” or “think positive.”  Sure the concept of pushing towards the positive is, well, positive; however it is not the same as actually changing your life with a positive mind-set.

You can’t fake mind-set and you can’t, “fake it to make it,” when it comes to being positive. A focus on past negative experiences, dreading some upcoming event or activity, or chronically discussing everything that is wrong in the world with anyone who will listen is not a positive mind-set.

Not feeling particularly positive?

Listen to yourself.

– DEG


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